How To Survive A Heart Break

But you will still experience being heart broken and go through severe emotional distress!

Heavily based on my own experience, so take it as a reference, and at your own risk. I wrote this with good intention and hope maybe one of you will find it helpful in some way. 

1/ Let it be:

First step to survive a break up: Accept it! Accept that you're now single, don't cling to the past, don't cling to the words and promises that your ex once said. It's the first step to move on.

2/ No crying, begging, text terrorism/drunk text:

I know you've been through a hard times. Actually crying is fine, but do it alone or with your best friend/family members/anyone that you feel comfortable to cry on. Never, ever, go to the one who broke up with you and cry and beg for a second chance, thinking it will change their mind. The truth is, you look pathetic at the moment you're doing it, and if they ever take you back, it's just their pity. Your "new" relationship won't last for a month.

The same with the texting: don't text stuffs like "how can i live without you/you're my life, please come back, i will do anything..." They chose to break up with you means they don't want to see you, at least for the time. Doing so will annoy them and push them further. And texting while you're drunk will make you regret next morning, mostly (unless there are miracles).

3/ No heart broken music:

Music can touch the soul, but your soul is currenty wounded, and those things will make you bleed harder. Try songs like "I will survive" by Gloria Gaynor, "Stronger" by either Kelly Clarkson or Britney Spears, "Jar of Hearts" by Christina Perri... Songs about people that recently been through break ups like you and still stand tall. I even made a playlist and named it "Fuck You Love". They actually help in pumping your mood up, at least for the moment you're listening. Save those heart broken songs for later, once you get over the break up, or at least you've gone numb!

4/ Go out, as much as possible:

With friends or family members. You might want to go out with several differnt people instead of just one, since you're hurted, but people have their own lives too. This one is pretty obvious, but there are things to be aware of. Friends who do not support or sympathize with your situation might cause negative effects on you. Also consider if you choose to go out with you ex's friends, it may causes misunderstanding like they might think you try to use them to stalk your ex. And never go to places that your ex often goes. You sure don't want to run into them and be called a creepy stalker.

5/ Meet new people, especially people from the opposite sex:

This is the concept of "plenty of fish in the sea". Probably you would still think "my ex is irreplaceable" or "I'm fed up with relationships or men/women...". I don't say you flirt and date them. Meeting new people will give you the opportunity to see a great diversity of people around you, since you may have neglected it with your previous relationship. Yes, the world is colorful and there are bunch of interesting people, so why narrowing your view?

6/ Avoid places that you two used to go to:

For the beginning of the break up, you should stay away from those places. It will only bring sad memories, thus slow down the recovery process. If that's a coffee shop, don't pass it. Even if it's your daily road and it makes you feel bad, choose another route (if it's possible).

7/ Travel/live abroad for a period of time:

Traveling is good, it gives you fresh air and lightens your mind. But living abroad is something to consider, since it's actually a kind of running away. If you've been hurted deeply and there are many things that remind you of your past relationship, it's the last choice to start all over again, just to make sure you can make a good living in the new place.

8/ Change your habit:

It's both the person and the habit you miss. You used to go out with them on Saturday night, now do something instead of staying at home on that day. Think of something you love, or want to do. Take that guitar class or dance course you've wanted for so long but haven't got the time, or simply go to the gym, for example. Keep yourself occupied and you will likely have less time to be depressed.

9/ Pump yourself up:

It's the best time to concentrate on yourself, since you were busy with your ex. Put on (or lose) some weight, develop your skills/talents, join social activities... Also take sometime to look back on your relationship when you feel ready. Think of why the ex left (even if your ex cheated on you) and be the person that once made the ex fell for you.

10/ Time:

Time is the answer to everything. Even if your ex contact you, but you still feel depress, then don't rush back. Take your time and should only see your ex when you're ready to let the past go. The same with rebound relationship after the break up. It won't heal anything but causing more troubles. So relax and "enjoy" your time being single.  

Basically that's it. At least it worked for me so, i hope it does with you too. Godspeed!