An Open Letter To My Future Girlfriend

Dear Future-Girlfriend,

I don't know who you are, I don't know how you look like, I don't even know if you exist or not, but I hope you do, because I'm looking for you! I don't want to grow old alone with my future-dog. I don't ask you to be my future-wife, yet, maybe, but I do hope we will enjoy each other's company when i find you.

I'm neither looking for a very serious relationship with full commitment, nor an open one. I will like you, alot, I know, and you will like me, hopefully, but it doesn't mean I will definitely settle down with you and we will end up marrying to each others. I won't get married until I'm at least 28, and life is full of uncertainty. You may leave me, or I can't go on with you, but whatever the reason is, I will do my best to make you happy while we're together. That's the "full commitment" part I believe. Did I say I'm not looking for an open relationship. Yes, I do mean it. I won't go flirt and date and sleep with other girls, even when I say we're not serious, and i hope you would do the same, although if you mean to cheat on me and decide to cover it up, I don't think i will have a clue, but hey, we should have faith, shouldn't we.

I hope you're an independent person, oh god you must be, otherwise I would not choose you to be my girlfriend. I love to spend  time with you, i truly do, but you're not everthing I have. I also have my family, I have my friends, I have my hobbies, I have my own space, and I believe you have yours as well. We don't have to see each other everyday, and please don't check up on me 24/7. Do things you like, see your friends... I respect your privacy, and I hope you will respect mine. We do not only need times together, but also apart from each other. Distance makes the heart grows fonder, remember?

Do you like...art? I used to be a student of Art, and I'm some kind of artsy person. Please tell me you do read. My favorite author is Paulo Coelho. I will also try not to judge you through your taste in music, but my heart will die a lot if you like Justin Bieber, Nicki Minaj and K-Pop. And I'm thinking of buying a wedding ring in case you can list the names of D.C and Marvel's characters, you tell the exact event happened in each episodes of Family Guy and/or How I Met Your Mother, you tell me you love The Lord of The Rings, and you do ballroom dancing. All combine, and i will propose to you straight away. 

You are normal, aren't you future-girlfriend. I mean, you're not a stalker who will do the exact things in the song "Every Breath You Take" by The Police: every breath you take, every move you make, every bond you break, every step you take, I'LL BE WATCHING YOU. It's not romantic, love, it's creepy! You're also not a drama queen who's willing to make a big mess out of one missed call. And finally you're not unstable and bipolar. I don't want to go through an emotions roller coaster ride when you tell me you love me today, and you say you can't see me the next morning out of nowhere for no reasons. I prefer a peaceful drive with you. Oh, forgot to mention, you will definitely gain a huge plus if you're into sport, traveling and adventure. I always enjoy backpack traveling and exploring foreign lands with my loved one.

There are things you should expect. I hope you don't mind if I kiss you in public. I repeat, kiss, not making out! I like you, I'm happy when I'm with you and I don't mind showing people the affection. I will hold your hands, embrace you and kiss you, simple as that. You should also expect intimacy between us. Ok, it's sex. I don't date you because of the sex, actually I can never date someone for sex only, but I believe it's a part of the romance. Intimate times between us will make the bond grows stronger, of that I'm sure. 

Last but not least, you must be able to drink. You enjoy a pint of beer, a classy glass of the Sauvignon Blanc, and a crazy shot of Tequila. I'm not an alcoholic, we will also do the coffee. Have i mentioned I know some really good coffee shops around, or you should totally take me to your favorite restaurant.

Ooh, that's quite a letter! This is thing I've learned in my early 20s dating life: Keep your standard high and expectation low. I hope you don't freak out after reading my letter, future-girlfriend. Now one question for you: Who/Where the hell are you?

With much love,

A.